When I reflect on the wisdom I’ve learned over the years as a team building facilitator, I find there are four core beliefs that have guided me and saved me from a lot of frustration and wasted time, while building great relationships.
Lesson#1: 
I cannot change people. The only person I can change is myself. Knowing this has stopped me from wasting my time and energy on family, friends, clients, and bosses!
Lesson#2:
When we step back and get the big picture, we see perspective. Just because I am having a bad day doesn’t mean my whole life is a disaster.
Lesson#3:
My life changes for the better dramatically whenever I learn to kick out 1 or more of these nasty needs in life:
• Need to be right
• Need to look good in front of others
• Need to be perfect
• Need to protect my ego
• Need to judge
Lesson#4:
The greatest gift I can give another human being is being present with that person in the now moment. That is NOT easy. We all want to speak up and respond immediately. Listening is a learned skill. Listening is a gift.